Thick skin.
Basic decency.

A quick word about guild chat and what we expect from each other.

Mid Life Aggro exists so we can enjoy the game, find good company, and have a laugh. Most of us are old enough to have sore knees and young enough to laugh at something stupid. That’s welcome here. Our boundaries are straightforward:

• No discussions of real-world race, religion, or politics.
• Zero tolerance for personal attacks or harassment.
• Don’t be a dick.

Within those boundaries, there’s room for different personalities and different senses of humor. With roughly 180 characters in the guild, including alts, you will occasionally encounter a joke you don’t enjoy. We cannot make everyone’s personal taste the standard for everyone else’s conversation.

Respect goes both ways. Sometimes it means recognizing that a joke has run its course and moving on. Sometimes it means letting a joke you didn’t care for scroll past. Disliking someone’s humor doesn’t automatically make them a bad person, and telling a joke doesn’t excuse treating someone badly.

If something needs addressing, communicate calmly. Give people a chance to understand the issue and respond before deciding what kind of person they are. An awkward moment doesn’t always need a moderator or a guild dispute. If there’s an actual personal attack, harassment, or a problem you can’t resolve, bring it to an officer.

Officers can step in with “Alright, let’s move on” when a conversation needs settling. When that happens, take the cue and move on without turning it into another argument.

For my officers: whatever respect and tolerance I expect from members, I expect tenfold from you. Your position carries weight. “I don’t like that joke” is not, by itself, grounds to shut down a conversation. Apply the same standards to humor you dislike that you would want applied to humor you enjoy. Lead with patience, use judgment, and be fair.

We want a guild where people feel comfortable participating. If everyone adds their own list of forbidden jokes, eventually nobody says a word—and that defeats the point of being here together.

Give each other some grace. Respect the boundaries. Make room for personalities besides your own. And enjoy the damn game.